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Mon, Apr. 11th, 2005, 05:22 pm
Whoo, Wedding

Despite a remarkable series of last-minute emergencies (a skirt that didn't want to stay in one piece, a sudden lack of blankets and pillows, a melting wedding cake), there was a wedding! And hakamadare and chaiya were married! And, hey, adrenaline is good for you, right?

(Actually, every wedding I've ever been involved with has been an exercise in controlled chaos. I'm not sure it would seem like a real wedding to me without at least one moment of panic. -g-)

What I really loved about the wedding - and intend to shamelessly steal, should I ever get married myself - is the way that their friends and family and community didn't just attend the wedding, they actually participated in creating it. From the ketubah (marriage contract) to the wedding outfits to the Shabbat meals for friends and family to the cake (go us!), everything that happened in the wedding had the fingerprints of their community all over it. Sometimes literally.

That's not to say that I intend to copycat them, if I ever get married. For one thing, my wedding will have a lot more books involved. Also possibly a Bollywood dance number. And elephants.

Mon, Apr. 11th, 2005 09:31 pm (UTC)
boffo9

Ya know, insisting on having books, at least one bollywood dance number, and elephants means that you are now completely destined to get married. Unless this last statement jinxed you.

When whytcrow and I renew our vows in 3 odd years, I want to have pirates and swordfights. She wants faeries and unicorns.

Mon, Apr. 11th, 2005 10:16 pm (UTC)
arib

For one thing, my wedding will have a lot more books involved. Also possibly a Bollywood dance number. And elephants.

So, somewhere along the way, your wedding plans involve crashing the Bangalore Public Library into the Ringling Brothers?

Mon, Apr. 11th, 2005 10:21 pm (UTC)
psychick

I believe all of these things can be arranged for. :-D

...would bellydancing count as Baliwood dancing? And dude, if we dance you totally have to sing. Possibly something from OMWH. *wicked grin*

Mon, Apr. 11th, 2005 10:28 pm (UTC)
chaiya

Melting wedding cake? I think I missed that ...

Mon, Apr. 11th, 2005 10:42 pm (UTC)
kleenestar

It was our job to make sure that you didn't have to know anything about it! Don't worry, it got fixed, and all was well and all was well and all manner of things were well . . . .

So, how's married life? :) :) :)

Tue, Apr. 12th, 2005 03:24 pm (UTC)
chaiya

Married life is awesome. Mostly because now I get to say "my husband" out loud, instead of secretly practicing it. :)

Has Steve ever talked with you about his theory of changes? Major changes should (according to him) happen gradually, with the outward recognition happening long after the internal decision was made. This was sort of in that vein of thought. We've been feeling married for a long time, now. The party was awesome, and the presents are cool, but that's the important part. I think you know what I mean. :)

Tue, Apr. 12th, 2005 02:15 am (UTC)
ikeeverett

if and when you get married, I hope you'll ask me to provide some of the funkiest jew-sic you'll ever cut the rug to...

Tue, Apr. 12th, 2005 02:33 am (UTC)
kleenestar

Are you kidding? You were the very first person I thought of when I was thinking of people I want involved. (Okay, okay, the second - but I'm kind of dating the other one!)

Not that I'm getting married anytime soon. Elephants are hard to schedule.